Simple Ways to Upgrade Your Love and Relationships
One of the basic essential needs human beings have is for love and belonging; friendship, intimacy, trust and acceptance, receiving and giving affection and love. The need for interpersonal relationships motivates behaviour, and helps combat problems such as loneliness, depression, and anxiety.
Personal relationships with friends, family, and romantic partners play an important role, as does involvement in community groups such as religious groups, sports teams, arts and crafts and other group activities. It means we are connected.
Real connection is more than just talking to others or sharing an interest. Truly connecting with others is a sense of being open and available to another person. Being together is easy and you click.
Intention
The most powerful and real connections are the ones that you truly care about. If you don't have a genuine interest in the person, your intention is not honourable, or you are not being authentic, then the bedrock of your relationship is flawed.
Ensure you are clear with your intentions, that you understand the other persons expectations - and that they understand yours - in relation to conversations, behaviour or relationships.
Suspend Judgement
Everyone has opinions, ideas, biases, culture and beliefs that we bring to every conversation. They are part of what makes you, You!
For great, two-way conversations and to be able to build real connections, you need to be able to suspend your judgment and be prepared to listen to what others have to say - their opinions, ideas, biases, culture and beliefs. This doesnt mean you have to agree with what they say, it means accepting their perspective and how they feel.
To suspend judgement, you need to do two things: Be present, and be prepared to learn.
Pay Attention (Be present)
Have you ever been in a conversation but not really present? Listening to what is being said but thinking about what to say next, or thinking what would happen if?
We have all done it. If you constantly seem distracted or disinterested in what your loved ones have to say, they may start to think you dont really care.
Being present means focusing on and being fully engaged in the here and now, without distraction. Instead of letting your mind wander, focus on the moment-to-moment experience of your relationships.
Be Curious (be prepared to learn)
By being curious you will be able to experience different perspectives, and find new opportunities and possibilities which are normally not visible to you due to your fixed points of view. They are hidden behind the surface of normal life, and it takes a curious mind to look beneath the surface and discover these new worlds and possibilities.
The life of curious people is far from boring. It's neither dull nor routine. There are always new things that attract their attention; there are always new toys to play with. Instead of being bored, curious people have an adventurous life.
Now, knowing the importance of curiosity, are you wondering how you could learn to be more curious?
Here are some activities you can use to find out more about the people in your life:
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